Why This Book?

In Don’t You Know Who I Am?, Dr. Ramani Durvasula offers a clear and compassionate guide to recognizing and protecting yourself from narcissistic behavior in every corner of life — not just in intimate relationships, but in families, workplaces, friendships, and society at large. With a blend of research, relatable examples, and real-world tools, she empowers readers to understand the narcissism epidemic not as a personal failure, but as a cultural challenge — one that can be met with boundaries, awareness, and radical self-respect.

Who It’s For

• Survivors of narcissistic abuse in any form — relational, familial, professional, or systemic
• Readers navigating emotionally exhausting environments marked by entitlement, manipulation, or chronic invalidation
• Therapists, educators, or advocates seeking a broad, socially-informed lens on narcissistic behavior

Big Takeaways

• Narcissism is not just an individual trait — it’s a relational pattern that thrives on power, exploitation, and image control.
• You can’t change a narcissist — but you can change your responses, reclaim your boundaries, and protect your peace.
• Radical acceptance — not false hope — is the first step toward freedom.

How It Can Help

This book offers a wide-angle view of narcissistic dynamics, helping readers connect the dots between personal harm and broader patterns of entitlement, exploitation, and emotional abuse. Dr. Ramani offers practical tools for disengagement, boundary-setting, and emotional self-protection — not with fear, but with clarity. It’s especially powerful for those who have tried everything to fix or appease someone else and are now ready to choose themselves.

Additional Notes or Warnings

• Covers narcissistic abuse across multiple domains: romantic, familial, workplace, cultural
• No graphic content, but may be emotionally activating for those currently entangled in toxic relationships
• Offers insight and tools, but does not promote confrontation or unrealistic change — it centers self-awareness and safety